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      Reciprocity and Role Division

 

 

 Translated from Hebrew by S. NAthan

l'ilui nishmat Esther bat mordechai

 

“ ‘Why is this, that Sara has laughed.  Is there anything that is beyond God?’  And she said, ‘I did not laugh,’ because she was in awe.”

Avraham is lesser than Sara in prophecy, yet nevertheless Avraham laughs in great wonder, and Sara laughs because she does not believe: “After I have withered I will have the cycle of youth?  And my lord is old…”

“And He said, ‘no, for you did laugh.’”  It seems He does not agree with her, from Avraham’s, or from the malach’s reaction.  Nevertheless this non-agreement does not seem to be accompanied by any sanctions or blame.  Sara seems to be not yet aware of the scope of the reciprocity that is contained in the new free choice, of the fact that it is capable of freeing the new chooser from nature’s shackles.

It is only after the good news had been brought to her by the malachim, and after she has – after  withering – been restored to her cycle of youthfulness, that she believes, and laughs no more “because she was in awe,”  due to her new seeing of the new relationship between the Holy One and herself, a relationship of reciprocity that leaves man open-mouthed with happiness and fearful wonder, as in “exult in trembling.”  “And He said: ‘No, for you did laugh’” as a continuation of this new education, to show the importance of man’s constantly working on his new free choice – an effort that never ends, and that demands never-ending self-renewal.

“Do I conceal what I am doing from Avraham?”  This too follows the new approach of reciprocal relations: God comes down to the level of human existence, in order to see the situation and to judge it according to man’s – His ally’s – perceptions.  And Avraham dares to argue with his Creator about the nature of the value of Divine justice.  A perception so audaciously daring as the Torah’s perception of the man/God relationship has no like or equal anywhere, among any of the religious conceptions ever invented by man, common to all of which is the one-sidedness of the man/Lord relationship: The all-powerful Lord – and man, with his zero capacity. 

The Torah perception: Man as partner, responsible even for the dimension of moral and spiritual values.  “God forbid that You should do such a thing.  Shall the Judge of all the earth not do justice?”  And elsewhere, “ ‘the owner shall approach the Elohim’, meaning the judge,” for it is the judge who determines and creates justice by his judgement.

“ ‘And God tested Avraham’…with ten tests, in order to purge him, to the point where he would be separate from nature, and would be totally Godly.”  (Maharal in Derech HaHaim 5:44)

This principle seems to apply to Lot’s two daughters as well; Hazal condemn Lot for his act with his daughters, but his daughters are not condemned.  They appear to have intended their act for the good, in that they saw themselves as belonging to the new brand of independent free choice, in which they could not allow themselves to rely on anyone other than themselves, in order to produce progeny, to continue the generations that had all been wiped out, so they believed.

“God has made me a laugh.”  “God has made me into a source of laughter and joy: Many barren women were remembered along with [Sara], many sick were cured on that day, many prayers were answered with her, and much laughter was in the world.”  (Rashi, Bereshit Raba.)  Sara, through the new free choice, had turned into a source of blessing.

“And Sara saw the son of Hagar, the Egyptian woman, making jest.”  Negative reciprocity.  He too had turned into a source – of negative influence, of jest and irresponsibility, of kalut rosh, a negative correlation to Sara’s laughter of joy.

“And God heard the voice of the youth” – who, too, later turned into a Godly source.”

“And Avraham planted a tree in Be’er Sheva”.  The source of all blessing.

 

Akeidat Yitzchak, The Binding of Yitzchak

 

“Sit you here, with the donkey.”  Maharal draws a parallel between Avraham and Bilam.  Here one went with his two servant boys, and there one went with his two servant boys.  Only here – “he harnessed his donkey”, and with Bilam, he went “with his female donkey,” a relationship of receiver and giver.  While with Avraham, he stands above the donkey, opposite the donkey.  (Donkey – hamor, signifies homar, physical matter.)

“ ‘God will see to his own lamb for a burnt offering, my son,’ and” – even though Yitzchak understood that he was walking on to be slaughtered – “they both walked on together.”  “With one and the same heart.”  According to the new system of free choice, Avraham and Yitzchak prepared the akeida, and God merely gave them the conditions with which to express their choice. 

This is indeed the substance of this test, of this nisayon, as in nes lehitnosais, a banner waving high: “As is said today: ‘In the Mountain of God Will Let be Seen’.”  God enables whatever is said (intended) by the human being in today’s new free choice, to be seen.

A free choice that is utter and absolute results in a promise that is utter and absolute and eternal.  “And behold this is a perfect promise, of the redemption in store for us.” (Ramban)  The test of the akeida expresses the absolute ability to choose one’s existence, to substitute creativity for self-preservation, to choose to live for one’s ideal’s sake instead of for one’s selfish ego’s sake.

Comparing Avraham’s moral attitudes: When deciding to send Hagar away as per Sara’s demand; when requesting of his wife: “Say please that you are my sister so that good will be done me for your sake”; and  in Akeidat Yitzchak.

 In his attitude to Sara, Avraham relates to the moral imperative that obligates him in relation to himself.  After all, ishto kegufo, “one’s wife is as one’s own body”, and sometimes one must refuse oneself, sacrifice one’s personal life, deny one’s own needs.

As to the akeida, Avraham had to confront the supreme moral imperative, rather than just his own personal morality.  The difference between the two lies in one’s level of understanding of and agreement with the moral imperative.  When matters concern one’s personal life, it is easier to understand, and to agree to renounce personal life in order to personally identify with the moral imperative.  When the moral imperative touches on the dimension of Godly values, personally identifying is not sufficient.  One must free oneself entirely of the personal, to sacrifice it on the altar of the absolute qualitative self, which has no interest in the personal whatsoever.

 

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