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Rosh Hashana: Remembering - Relating 
 

  Translated from HeBRew by DR. S. NAthan

l'ilui nishmat Esther bat mordechai
L'ILUI NISHMAT MAYER HIRSH BEN LAIBEL
L'ILUI NISHMAT BEN TZION BEN MENACHEM CHAIM

 


It is strongly recommended to everyone who serves God - to recite the “Six Remembrances” every morning after prayer .”

Why?  What part do the “Six Remembrances” play in serving God?

“You remember the making of the universe," we say as we pour our hearts out on the Day of Remembrance, that aspect of Rosh Hashanah's sanctity that is expressed as memory.  The Holy One remembers, and by His remembering, He tends to all His creatures.  

How does remembering relate to the King of the Universe?  The Holy One relates to every one of His creants; He does not suffice with the mere act of creating them, but rather continues to bestow His attention upon them.  He continues to grant a personal relationship to all those who personally relate to Him.  He continues His responsibility towards them.  He cares about them.  He relates to us with a seriousness of attitude that surpasses our attitude to Him.  His relating to us obligates us to relate to Him, to be attached to Him, to be dependent upon Him, and to report to Him about our lives.

We function in such a way as to carry out His mission.  We are soldiers in God’s army, and we carry out missions.  There is great importance in the way we fulfill the missions that justify our existence.  And God remembers!

His relating to us obligates us to relate to Him.  On Rosh Hashanah we determine – and God, for His part, determines as well – the quality of the reciprocal relationship that will be formed anew each year between ourselves and our Maker.

God remembers every detail, meaning that there is no randomness in the world.  Nothing is devoid of significance.  God counts and reckons every detail of human behavior as being a fulfillment of the human mission, a link in memory’s chain.

God’s relating to us takes all of time into account.  It is a total and all-encompassing grasp of time that embraces cause and effect, beginning and end – continuity.  

Such a perception of time contests the narrow existential approach that focuses only on the here and now.  There is a yesterday that came before yesterday, and there is a tomorrow that will come after tomorrow.  The past does not disappear.  It exists in the present, for the present is no more than "a continuation of..."  It is the link in the chain that closes the cycle of life’s completeness.

Life’s purpose is to close this circle, while integrating within it our own role in the present, as a link in the cycle of completeness – in which other people take part as well, such as forefathers and children and grandchildren – students who pass the Word, and our masters who have transmitted the Word, from Moses our great master, who received the Torah at Sinai and transmitted it to Joshua, who transmitted it, etc.

Despising any link in the chain, God forbid, could sever the cycle of completeness, and therefore no one may break free of it.

You do not represent only yourself.  Rather, you represent the complete cycle.  You constitute a link, and therein lies the secret of your significance as a human being – bearing value and laden with eternity.

The source of the power of your qualitative self derives from your capacity as a link in the chain.

Delving into the meaningful content of memory’s details fills them with personal significance.  From among the “Six Remembrances” that constitute the links of the chain, some of them are negative memories:  “Remember what God did to Miriam,” who was punished with leprosy for speaking negatively about Moshe.  Remember Amalek.  These remembrances knock at the door of every Jew, a reminder of sin, of negative tendencies ignored, transgressions "that one tramples with one's heels.”

Memory as relating - leads to consciousness, to self-awareness.  Without memory, awareness is absent, and a human being turns into an object, into an animal living the life of the moment, which passes in a flash, leaving no traces in the depths of one’s personality.  This is how the value of a personality is measured: According to the depth of memory.

A newborn infant attains memory at eight months of age, when the objects and the people surrounding him begin to take on permanence in his life.  He remembers his relatives and bursts into frightened weeping when strangers appear.  The infant is at that point already capable of distinguishing between those who belong to him and those strangers toward whom he feels recoil.

From that point onward, memory continues to develop, to eventually become a foundational element in the structure of the adult personality.

The Torah calls the human being a tree of the field.  There is a diagnostic test, in which a person draws a tree.  If the drawing is given careful attention, then the individual who is drawing the tree unwittingly includes in his tree – every single detail of his past that has had any importance to him, any detail that has contributed to his personality.

Sometimes there are problems in the field of memory.  Memories that held an important place in childhood ultimately merge with the foundations of the personality, just like a tree whose roots are buried deep in the earth and never see the light of day.   When an individual draws the tangle of roots, showing them exposed, this points to childhood memories that have not merged with the personality, and the matter requires further investigation.  Usually this person is suffering from some childish character trait that has not been digested by the personality, like a bone stuck in one’s throat; one can neither swallow it nor vomit it out.  When such a person encounters some unimportant event, he over-reacts.  He is unable to continue with business as usual.  His response is that of an overly emotional child who lacks all sense of proportion and has no capacity for judging life’s daily realities.

Similarly, there are memories that are doomed to oblivion, just as there are memories destined to play an important role, both in the present and in the future, such as gratitude for example.  Someone has done you good?  Do not forget it.  Reward him as he deserves and do not forget him.  It is not such a comfortable sensation to feel obligated to someone, if you have no benefit from this obligation at present.  This is why the trait of gratitude is the noblest of all midot, and its reward is great in this world, and continues to produce dividends in the next world as well, such as honoring one’s parents, for example.

Despite the fact of life that stipulates, “therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and attach to his wife,” nevertheless, let him not forget his obligation to his parents, God forbid, even if to all utilitarian appearances, their role in relation to him has ended.  Nor does the obligation continue only with his parents.  Rather the test of gratitude’s memory relates to every person that has ever done you the slightest kindness in the past, even if it appears to have utterly lost its significance in the present.  In spite of this, your quality is measured by the quality of your memory.

On the other hand, one of poor quality is measured by the extent to which negative memories populate, take hold of and acquire tenancy in his personality:  Who has done me wrong?  Who has not treated me as I have deserved, etc.  A good person has good memories, as opposed to the evil person who wallows in his bitter memories.  Memory is the key to human quality.

The Torah’s purpose in giving so much space to memory thus becomes obvious, to the point that the People of Israel is perceived by the world as being a People of Memories.  Memories constitute the reason for many of the practical commandments as well as many of the contemplative commandments - “because you were a slave in the Land of Egypt”.  The memory of slavery takes up significant space in the national awareness, and in the individual awareness as well.

You might ask at this point: Such conscious awareness, what purpose does it serve?  Who needs it?  The answer is: It is for the purpose of repair and correction, of tikun.  The human creature formed in the Divine image is a partner to the Holy One in managing the creation.  For this purpose, humans were graced with a character trait that enables them to bear responsibility for the proper functioning of the universe.

Without a sense of awareness, responsibility is not feasible.  This means awareness of oneself and of one’s environment, whether near or distant, both in terms of space and in terms of time.  Awareness of this sort allows one to acquire an objective perspective.  It enables one to assess situations, to judge in a balanced fashion, and to arrive at a decisive conclusion.  These abilities alone are what grant the human creature its advantage over all the other creatures.  The greater a human being’s awareness, the greater that human being’s advantage over the other creatures.

It must be pointed out that this awareness varies in quality from person to person.  Without awareness, the human is no different from any of the other animals, which operate mainly by an instinctive system, like automatic instruments activated by an external stimulus.  

We find this progression in human development as well:  From a creature activated primarily by mechanical stimuli in childhood, a human being becomes a possessor of awareness.  This awareness eventually becomes an indicator of personal maturity, bestowing quality upon the personality.

We see from this that being self-aware in the present, as one stands before the Heavenly Court, demands that one give an accounting for one’s actions.  Awareness in the present must include also memories, which express one’s attitude toward and one’s responsibility for one’s actions in the past.  An awareness in the present that relates to the past enables one to grant value and meaning to the past.  Whether it will be of permanent value beyond the fleeting moment, only the future can determine.

We find therefore that the ability to predict and to plan future developments is what determines one’s abilities to evaluate one’s past actions.  The ability to anticipate the future, grants one the ability to evaluate the results of one’s actions.  Without the ability to anticipate and evaluate results, one would be unable to weigh one’s actions from any perspective, just as the deaf, the mentally disabled and minors cannot evaluate the results of their actions.  This can be dangerous, because whoever harms such people is guilty of wrongdoing, whereas if they harm others, they are innocent of any wrongdoing.  The fact that the halacha includes a minor in the same category as the deaf and the mentally disabled proves that a minor’s limitation exists by virtue of his lack of awareness and his lack of responsibility for the results of his actions.

We may conclude from this that anyone found fully focused in the present – in a present that also encompasses and includes both past and future – can be said to be standing with both feet firmly planted on the ground of a reality that he is able to control.  This explains his ability to bear responsibility for his actions.  

The more limited one’s sense of the present, and the fewer components of past and future that it contains, the more limited one’s quality, in keeping with one’s limitedness of vision in the present.

A person who is detached from the present is considered (and rightly so) to be either a fool or mentally disturbed.  Of the mentally disturbed, there are two categories: Those who exist only in the past, and those who exist only in a future utopia.  The former believe themselves to be Napoleon and the latter believe themselves to be the Messiah.  What both have in common is a lack of ability to experience the present.  

It is important to note that a healthy sense of the past includes only those experiences that contain an expression of creative quality.  Painful memories of the fight for survival are a curse.  One should rid oneself of them.  They do only harm.

In the mitzva of vidui, we are to realize the importance of memories.  The purpose of confessing our sins is not to torment our conscience, as those who suffer from compulsive neurosis believe.  The purpose of vidui is no different than the purpose of memory: It is a value – the value of relating through awareness.  In the same way, remembering one’s parents and one’s national ancestors [during prayer] is designed to deepen our experience of relating through memories, making this experience more powerfully tangible from both the personal and the national perspective.

“Remember the Sabbath Day, to sanctify it.”
This remembering is meant to awaken a personal relationship with the Founder of the Sabbath, to connect one to the Holy One Himself in all His glory.  Keeping the Sabbath is intended to deepen one’s personal connection with the Founder of the universe, with the creation of the universe.  More emphatically, keeping the Sabbath is meant to deepen one’s sense of connection to the cause of the universe and to the purpose of creation, rather than merely experiencing the sensation of creation.

The Phenomenon of Denying Memory
The most well known of these is the denial of the Jewish Holocaust in Europe, or the deliberate blurring of memory, such as viewing Palestinian murder gangs as a nation – all these are included in the crime, the results of which are fraught with disaster.  These denials are the rotten fruit of the yetser hara, the “urge to create evil,” the human tendency to deny the extent of one’s responsibility for one’s actions.  Such denial frees one from the feelings of regret that invite repentance, for it is only in this blessed state that one is forgiven for one’s sins.  The memory of sin brings repair and repentance whereas the denial of sin springs from wanton cowardice.

There is a certain phenomenon of forgetfulness that belongs to the realm of pathology within the framework of incurable mental illnesses.  Oliver Sacks, currently considered a world-class neurologist, describes a case of amnesia that afflicted an engineer of the American Marine Corps, who was hospitalized at the end of his life due to this illness.  His defect was so severe that he would forget his way to the lunchroom and to the bathroom.  For some reason, he was able to remember the period of his military service during the Second World War in minute detail, including names of people and of events.  Similarly, he was able to remember every single plant in the hospital garden, and the precise treatment and care that each plant required.  He could also remember all the details of prayer ceremonies.

Oliver Sacks presented this bewildering phenomenon to his superior, the Russian-Jewish Professor Landau, considered a genius in the field of neurology.  Landau replied that he knew of a similar phenomenon but could not explain what caused it.

We believe this phenomenon proves the validity of our approach, which makes a clear distinction between an experience that derives from a creative source and an experience that derives from the survival/self-preservation instinct.  A creative experience is the result of quality.  It is an expression of the self, which encompasses and unites both past and future within the present.  However, an experience that belongs to the survival system belongs to the ego, which does not characterize a human being in any way, in that it is a standard characteristic of every animal, of every cat and dog and not only of human creatures.  It contains no expression of the human being whatsoever, and certainly no expression of the unique individual.  There is therefore no reason that an experience from the source of ego should acquire tenancy within the depths of human experience.  The experience of ego finds its place in a truncated present, and leaves no traces in the past or in the future.  Eventually it must disappear.